Children can have many questions and concerns when their parents are getting divorced. How parents respond to such questions and concerns and talk to their kids generally when it comes to the divorce and matters connected to it is very important. It can impact how kids handle the divorce and how strong communication remains between the parents and the kids.
So, there are various things parents may want to keep in mind when discussing a divorce with their children. Tips for parents on this front include:
- Give thought to what you are going to say, and avoid speaking rashly
- Let your kids know they are loved and that the divorce doesn’t change this
- Make sure the children understand that the divorce isn’t their fault
- Be honest and open
- Don’t bad-mouth or assign blame to your ex when talking to the kids
- Let your children know that they can talk to you about things that worry them about the divorce
These are some general tips. It is important for parents to tailor how they talk about a divorce to their kids to their children’s unique circumstances and needs. Things like a child’s age, temperament level can impact what the best way to talk to him or her about a divorce would be.
Careful tailoring isn’t just important when it comes to discussing a divorce with the kids. For one, it is also critical in child custody agreements. How carefully such an agreement is tailored impacts how good of a fit it is for a child’s interests and unique needs. Family law attorneys can assist parents with child custody agreement negotiations in divorces.