You have a deep-seated fear that you will lose your children in your divorce. It’s your worst nightmare to think that you’d be limited from being able to see them or that you’d lose your parental rights.
The good news is that parents rarely find themselves in such a serious situation. Most parents are expected to share physical custody, and in some cases, legal custody as well. Even if you and your children’s other parent don’t get along, there are rarely reasons strong enough to completely cut off custody.
To make it easier for you to get the custody schedule that would make you most comfortable, there are a few things you can do. They include:
- Staying positive about your ex-partner in the court
- Avoiding saying anything negative about your ex-spouse to your children
- Coming prepared to court so that the judge sees you have good intentions
- Staying single or avoiding introducing new partners to your children
What you want to do most of all is to show that you put your children’s interests first. Show that you have a space set up for them in your home, that you have the financial backing to care for them and that you’re prepared to care for them with a strong support system. A judge wants to know that you’re focused on being a positive role model and that you won’t be negative about your children’s other parent and involve them in your conflicts.
If you’re worried about losing custody, don’t lose hope. Our website has more information on what you can do to protect your right to custody and to make sure you get the custody schedule you want.